Resources for Parents and Carers
Understanding autism
Understanding autism resources for parents/carers
- Understanding autism PDF guide - summary of the information that is covered in understanding autism presentations that are delivered in workshops.
Sensory processing resources for parents/carers
- Sensory Processing handbook PDF - summary of the information that is covered in sensory processing presentations that are delivered in workshops.
- Sensory profile worksheet PDF - a worksheet that can be printed out and filled in by parents/ carers, to help them think about their child’s sensory profile and how best to support their needs
Sensory processing videos
The following videos are recorded versions of the sensory processing PowerPoint presentations for parents and carers who can't attend live sessions.
'Understanding autistic overwhelm, meltdowns and shutdowns' resources for parents/carers
- Understanding autistic overwhelm, meltdowns and shutdowns PDF Guide - summary of the information that is covered in the 'Understanding autistic overwhelm, meltdowns and shutdowns' presentation that is delivered in workshops.
- Understanding autistic overwhelm, meltdowns and shutdowns video - a video version of the presentation for parents and carers who can't attend live workshop sessions.
Videos on 'Understanding autistic overwhelm, meltdowns and shutdowns'
The following videos are part of the 'Understanding autistic overwhelm' PowerPoint presentation, but can also be accessed individually. In these videos, autistic young people share their experiences around anxiety.
- What causes stress and anxiety levels to increase? (5 min video)
- What are signs of rising stress and anxiety levels? (3 min video)
- What strategies do you use when stress and anxiety levels rise? (6 min video)
- How can others support you with stress and anxiety? (4 min video)
- Meltdowns and shutdowns (6 min video)
- The impact of masking on stress and anxiety (6 min video)
- What key piece of advice would you offer to parents of an autistic child? (2 min video)
Education
'Finding the right school' resources
- Choosing the right school for your child - PDF Guide for parents/carers on questions they may consider asking when choosing a school for their child. This resource can be printed out and could be taken into meetings with schools. It has room for parents and carers to add their own notes. Could be handed out in workshops or parents/carers can access this resource through their own login.
- Choosing a school for your child - Video (7 mins) explaining how parents could use the PDF guide above. Different parents share their experiences and advice on finding the right school for autistic children. Could be shared in workshops or parents/carers can access this resource through their own login.
- Choosing the right educational setting for your child - Video (11 mins) - parents talk about choosing alternative education settings for their children and what has worked for their families.
Good autism practice in education settings
- Good autism practice in education settings - PowerPoint presentation to help parents/carers understand what good autism practice in education settings looks like, what reasonable adjustments should be offered, how to communicate effectively with school. This presentation has a voice-over narrative for parents/carers that can be accessed by viewing the presentation in 'presenter mode'.
- 8 Principles for supporting your child in early years settings - PDF guide to help parents/carers understand how their autistic child can be supported at nursery or in other Early Years settings, and to help prepare for meetings with staff.
- 8 Principles for supporting your child in early years settings - Video (3 mins) to support PDF above which features other parents talking about their experiences.
- 8 Principles for supporting your child at school - PDF Guide to help parents/carers understand how their autistic child can be supported in secondary school, and to help them prepare for meetings with staff. .
- 8 Principles for supporting your child at school - Video (5 mins) to support PDF above which features other parents talking about their experiences.
- 8 Principles for supporting your child in a post-16 setting - PDF Guide to help parents/carers understand how their autistic child can be supported in post-16 settings, and to help them prepare for meetings with staff.
- 8 Principles for supporting your child in a post-16 setting - Video (3 mins) to support PDF above which features other parents talking about their experiences.
Getting additional help at school
- Getting extra help in school or other settings - PDF guide to expand on the information in the 'Getting extra help' PowerPoint presentation.
- Making a request for an Education, Health and Care needs assessment - PDF guide to provide parents/carers with the knowledge and expertise to apply to their local authority for an EHC needs assessment.
- Education jargon buster - PDF Guide to explain many of the common terms used when working with education settings or local authorities.
One page profiles
- One page profiles - PowerPoint presentation to help parents/carers understand how to use One Page Profiles in educational settings, as a tool to highlight an autistic child or young person's individuality. This presentation has a voice-over narrative for parents/carers that can be accessed by viewing the presentation in 'presenter mode'.
- One Page Profile worksheet - A PDF template for a One Page Profile with a completed example. A One Page Profile is a tool that can be used to highlight an autistic child or adult's individuality and maps out different aspects such as their likes, dislikes, goals, ambitions, what is important to them and more.
School attendance difficulties
- School stress and anxiety - PDF Guide on school stress and anxiety. It explains common reasons for stress and anxiety and offers strategies to overcome barriers to inclusion in school. The guide gives parents/ carers ideas on what schools could do to help pupils to reduce stress and anxiety. The resource could be shared with education professionals.
- The impact of school stress - Video (3 mins) about the difficulties autistic children may face at school and how this can lead to distressed behaviour at home or at school and lead to school attendance difficulties. The video provides some practical tips for parents to identify potential stress factors at school.
Exclusions
- Reasonable adjustments - Video (10 mins) about the rights and entitlements of autistic pupils and what schools need to offer under the Equality Act 2010. Explains what reasonable adjustments at school are, and how they can help avoid suspensions and exclusions.
- School exclusions - PDF Guide to help parents navigate equality law, rights and entitlements, when their autistic child is excluded or at risk of exclusion from school. The guide contains information on disability discrimination, disability-related behaviour and reasonable adjustments.
- Steps to avoid exclusions - PDF Guide to explain the steps school should take to avoid the exclusion of autistic pupils. It offers information on the SEN support cycle, reasonable adjustments and EHC Needs Assessments.
- Steps to avoid exclusions - Video (6 minutes) on steps to avoid exclusions of autistic pupils from school.
- Successful reintegration of autistic pupils - PDF Guide to explain what schools can do to help with the reintegration of autistic pupils after a suspension. This includes a number of reintegration strategies for schools.
Working with schools and other educational settings
- Preparing for meetings - PDF Guide with tips for parents/carers on how to prepare for meetings with educational professionals with ideas for discussion points.
- Working in partnership to create meaningful outcomes - PDF Guide on working in partnerships with schools or other educational settings to create meaningful outcomes.
- Thriving Together: Parents and Schools - PDF Guide presenting real life stories of collaboration between parents and schools, collated by AET and NNPCF.
Wellbeing videos (Finding the balance series 1)
Wellbeing videos
The following videos could be used as part of workshops and feature exercises which could be completed as a group. Alternatively, the parents/carers can access these videos through their own login.
- Am I doing this all wrong - Video (20 mins) by Dr Naomi Fisher and Eliza Fricker on the impact of self-critical thinking on parents and what we can do to be more compassionate with ourselves.
- Dealing with other people - Video (20 mins) by Dr Naomi Fisher and Eliza Fricker on how to deal with other people and feelings of blame and shame that many parents can experience.
- Looking after yourself - Video (20 mins) by Dr Naomi Fisher and Eliza Fricker on how to look after yourself when it's difficult to find time away from your children.
- Not what I signed up for - Video (23 mins) by Dr Naomi Fisher and Eliza Fricker on the gap of expectations versus reality in relation to parenting, and how we can let go of unhelpful expectations.
- Why do I feel so drained - Video (22 mins) by Dr Naomi Fisher and Eliza Fricker on how we can focus on increasing the number of things in our lives which recharge our emotional batteries.
- I can't relax - Video (20 mins) by Dr Naomi Fisher and Eliza Fricker on dealing with feeling constantly on edge as a parent and some practical suggestions for a reset.
Education videos (Finding the balance series 2)
Working with school (18 minutes) - Dr Naomi Fisher and Eliza Fricker discuss how parents/ carers can effectively work with schools to achieve the best outcomes for their autistic children.
Reasonable adjustments and EHCPs (15 minutes) - Dr Naomi Fisher and Eliza Fricker discuss what parents/ carers can do to access additional support for their autistic child at school.
Why school is hard (20 minutes) - School can be hard for many autistic children. Dr Naomi Fisher and Eliza Fricker look at the reasons for this and discuss what parents/ carers and educators can do to help.
School attendance problems (19 minutes) - Dr Naomi Fisher and Eliza Fricker discuss the reasons why many autistic children find attending school difficult and what parents/ carers can do to help.
Deciding about school (21 minutes) - Dr Naomi Fisher and Eliza Fricker discuss what parents/ carers may need to consider when thinking about taking their child out of school.
Education outside of school (23 minutes) - Dr Naomi Fisher and Eliza Fricker talk about alternative ways to access education for young people who cannot go to school.
Recovering from school (22 minutes) - Dr Naomi Fisher and Eliza Fricker discuss the stages of recovery that many children go through when they leave school and how parents/ carers can best support them during this time.
Low demand parenting videos (Finding the balance series 3)
Eating (18 mins) - Many parents are worried about what their children eat, and food can quickly become a battle ground. Dr Naomi Fisher and Eliza Fricker talk about why eating can be difficult for many autistic children, and how parents can help.
Sleep (18 mins) - When you aren’t sleeping, everything is difficult. You are exhausted and yet your child is still awake. In this video Dr Naomi Fisher and Eliza Fricker talk about how parents can help autistic children to get the sleep that they – and their parents – need.
Adolescence (21 mins) - Just as parents have worked out how to manage their child, along comes puberty and everything changes. In this video Dr Naomi Fisher and Eliza Fricker talk about the brain changes which go on during adolescence and how these can play out for autistic children.
Screens (22 mins)- Many parents are worried about how much time their autistic children spend on a screen. Dr Naomi Fisher and Eliza Fricker discuss why screens are so important for many autistic children, the role they play and what parents can do to help children develop a healthy relationship with screens.
Meltdowns (17 mins) - Parents say they feel like they are walking on eggshells around their autistic child, waiting for them to explode. What’s going on, and how can you manage when things really go wrong? Dr Naomi Fisher and Eliza Fricker explain what a meltdown is, why they happen and give some suggestions as to what parents can do to help.
Why won't they listen? (15 mins) - The way that we say things matters. It can make the difference between a peaceful or a conflictual interaction. What are the difficulties which happen for many families around communication, and how can parents do things differently? In this video Dr Naomi Fisher and Eliza Fricker introduce some ideas around low demand communication.
Why won't they just behave? (20mins) - Behaviour can be very challenging for parents to manage. In this video Dr Naomi Fisher and Eliza Fricker discuss the methods which parents are often told to use for behaviour, why these don’t work with many autistic children, and what to do instead.
Health and wellbeing of autistic family members
Resources on play
Play PDF - PDF Guide on play for parents/carers to be handed out in workshops. This can also be accessed by parents/carers directly through their login.
Resources on toileting
Toileting PDF - PDF Guide on toileting to be handed out in workshops. This can also be accessed by parents/carers directly through their login.
Navigating support
Resources on transitions to adulthood
Transitions to adulthood - PDF guide for parents and carers to be handed out in workshops. This can also be accessed by parents/carers directly through their login.
Anxiety checklist - Editable PDF with strategies that can help with anxiety for young people who are going through transitions.
Distress scale - Editable PDF for a 'self check-in' around anxiety for young people who are going through transitions
One page profile - Editable PDF template to record a person's likes and dislikes, which can be shared with others to help them understand how best to offer support.
Checklist for comparing colleges and universities - Editable PDF checklist
Checklist for comparing social care provision - Editable PDF checklist
Template letter to request a social care assessment for under-18s
Template letter to request a social care assessment for over-18s
Personal assistants and personal budgets
Personal assistants and personal budgets PDF - A guide for parents and carers on hiring a Personal Assistant (PA) and how to access personal budgets.
Understanding autism course for PAs - A free online course for personal assistants who want to increase their knowledge about autism.
All videos
Sensory processing videos
The following videos are recorded versions of the sensory processing PowerPoint presentations for parents and carers who can't attend live sessions.
Videos on 'Understanding autistic overwhelm, meltdowns and shutdowns'
The following videos are part of the 'Understanding autistic overwhelm' PowerPoint presentation, but can also be accessed individually. In these videos, autistic young people share their experiences around anxiety.
- What causes stress and anxiety levels to increase? (5 min video)
- What are signs of rising stress and anxiety levels? (3 min video)
- What strategies do you use when stress and anxiety levels rise? (6 min video)
- How can others support you with stress and anxiety? (4 min video)
- Meltdowns and shutdowns (6 min video)
- The impact of masking on stress and anxiety (6 min video)
- What key piece of advice would you offer to parents of an autistic child? (2 min video)
Understanding autistic overwhelm, meltdowns and shutdowns video - a video version of the presentation for parents and carers who can't attend live workshop sessions.
Education video
- Choosing a school for your child - Video (7 mins) To be used together with the 'Choosing a school for your child' PDF resource. Different parents share their experiences and advice on finding the right school for autistic children. Could be shared in workshops or parents/carers can access this resource through their own login.
- Choosing the right educational setting for your child - Video (11 mins) - parents talk about choosing alternative education settings for their children and what has worked for their families.
- 8 Principles for supporting your child in early years settings - Video (3 mins) to be used together with PDF. Features parents talking about their experiences.
- 8 Principles for supporting your child at school - Video (5 mins) to be used together with PDF. Features parents talking about their experiences.
- 8 Principles for supporting your child in a post-16 setting - Video (3 mins) to be used together with PDF. Features parents talking about their experiences.
- The impact of school stress - Video (3 mins) about the difficulties autistic children may face at school and how this can lead to distressed behaviour at home or at school and lead to school attendance difficulties. The video provides some practical tips for
- Reasonable adjustments - Video (10 mins) about the rights and entitlements of autistic pupils and what schools need to offer under the Equality Act 2010. Explains what reasonable adjustments at school are, and how they can help avoid suspensions and exclusions. parents to identify potential stress factors at school.
Education videos (Finding the balance series 2)
Working with school (18 minutes) - Dr Naomi Fisher and Eliza Fricker discuss how parents/ carers can effectively work with schools to achieve the best outcomes for their autistic children.
Reasonable adjustments and EHCPs (15 minutes) - Dr Naomi Fisher and Eliza Fricker discuss what parents/ carers can do to access additional support for their autistic child at school.
Why school is hard (20 minutes) - School can be hard for many autistic children. Dr Naomi Fisher and Eliza Fricker look at the reasons for this and discuss what parents/ carers and educators can do to help.
School attendance problems (19 minutes) - Dr Naomi Fisher and Eliza Fricker discuss the reasons why many autistic children find attending school difficult and what parents/ carers can do to help.
Deciding about school (21 minutes) - Dr Naomi Fisher and Eliza Fricker discuss what parents/ carers may need to consider when thinking about taking their child out of school.
Education outside of school (23 minutes) - Dr Naomi Fisher and Eliza Fricker talk about alternative ways to access education for young people who cannot go to school.
Recovering from school (22 minutes) - Dr Naomi Fisher and Eliza Fricker discuss the stages of recovery that many children go through when they leave school and how parents/ carers can best support them during this time.
Wellbeing videos (Finding the balance series 1)
- Am I doing this all wrong - Video (20 mins) by Dr Naomi Fisher and Eliza Fricker on the impact of self-critical thinking on parents and what we can do to be more compassionate with ourselves.
- Dealing with other people - Video (20 mins) by Dr Naomi Fisher and Eliza Fricker on how to deal with other people and feelings of blame and shame that many parents can experience.
- Looking after yourself - Video (20 mins) by Dr Naomi Fisher and Eliza Fricker on how to look after yourself when it's difficult to find time away from your children.
- Not what I signed up for - Video (23 mins) by Dr Naomi Fisher and Eliza Fricker on the gap of expectations versus reality in relation to parenting, and how we can let go of unhelpful expectations.
- Why do I feel so drained - Video (22 mins) by Dr Naomi Fisher and Eliza Fricker on how we can focus on increasing the number of things in our lives which recharge our emotional batteries.
- I can't relax - Video (20 mins) by Dr Naomi Fisher and Eliza Fricker on dealing with feeling constantly on edge as a parent and some practical suggestions for a reset.
- Steps to avoid exclusions - Video (6 minutes) on steps to avoid exclusions of autistic pupils from school.
Low demand parenting videos (Finding the balance series 3)
- Eating (18 mins) - Many parents are worried about what their children eat, and food can quickly become a battle ground. Dr Naomi Fisher and Eliza Fricker talk about why eating can be difficult for many autistic children, and how parents can help.
- Sleep (18 mins) - When you aren’t sleeping, everything is difficult. You are exhausted and yet your child is still awake. In this video Dr Naomi Fisher and Eliza Fricker talk about how parents can help autistic children to get the sleep that they – and their parents – need.
- Adolescence (21 mins) - Just as parents have worked out how to manage their child, along comes puberty and everything changes. In this video Dr Naomi Fisher and Eliza Fricker talk about the brain changes which go on during adolescence and how these can play out for autistic children.
- Screens (22 mins)- Many parents are worried about how much time their autistic children spend on a screen. Dr Naomi Fisher and Eliza Fricker discuss why screens are so important for many autistic children, the role they play and what parents can do to help children develop a healthy relationship with screens.
- Meltdowns (17 mins) - Parents say they feel like they are walking on eggshells around their autistic child, waiting for them to explode. What’s going on, and how can you manage when things really go wrong? Dr Naomi Fisher and Eliza Fricker explain what a meltdown is, why they happen and give some suggestions as to what parents can do to help.
- Why won't they listen? (15 mins) - The way that we say things matters. It can make the difference between a peaceful or a conflictual interaction. What are the difficulties which happen for many families around communication, and how can parents do things differently? In this video Dr Naomi Fisher and Eliza Fricker introduce some ideas around low demand communication.
- Why won't they just behave? (20mins) - Behaviour can be very challenging for parents to manage. In this video Dr Naomi Fisher and Eliza Fricker discuss the methods which parents are often told to use for behaviour, why these don’t work with many autistic children, and what to do instead.